Do you use the word “I” often?
Are you easily agitated when you don’t get your way?
Do you feel entitled to your job and/or higher positions within your organization?
I would like to share some advice that is applicable to anyone looking to make a career change; specifically with how to deal with not getting a job that you interviewed for (or are going to interview for).
I always give direct feedback to all interviewees in an attempt to keep them focused on future opportunities while also offering them advice on how to succeed. When you are striving to make a career change, it is in your best interest to make sure that you accept that the outcome of the interview process may not go the way you want it to go…
If things don’t go your way, make sure that you show respect to the person giving you the feedback while keeping a clear focus on future opportunities. It is perfectly normal to feel disappointed when you don’t get the job you want, but do not let your desire to make a career change become deeply intertwined with your emotional self.
Here are a few things that you definitely don’t want to do during the feedback session:
- Allow your emotions to take control of your words and actions
- Use the word “I” over and over, especially if your desire is to join a team
- Give several reasons why you should have been hired
- Make the statement that you are the most qualified candidate
- Say that you deserve the position
- Say that you deserve to be recognized for your achievements
- Say that you deserve a higher salary
- Threaten to leave your organization
Here are a few more items to consider:
- Do not ever intertwine your identity in a job, a salary, any possession, etc.; your identity should be free and clear of anything that can be lost and/or never gained to start with. As a Christian, my identity is in Jesus Christ. For a non-Christian who may be reading this; your focus should, at a minimum, be on striving to be a person of integrity, respect, and compassion (especially for those who are less fortunate that you).
- Do not show blatant disrespect to those whom you desire to work for. That just doesn’t make any sense. As a matter of fact, it tells the person that they made the right decision by not hiring you.
- Learn to accept that ‘Attitude’ and ‘Aptitude’ are far more important that raw skills. Be careful not to be your own judge, jury, and executioner; it will get you into trouble in many areas of your life.
- Learn to accept that you will not get everything you want in life. Life is filled with highs and lows. Learn to accept that fact.
- Strive to have a humble attitude. Do not go through life with an ego that constantly needs to be fed. It will always be hungry!
Are you willing to change?
Are you willing to carefully consider what is written here and apply it to your life?
Do not give up!
Continue your trek towards your personal goals!
If things don’t go your way, take a humble look inward and work on improving yourself…